How To Start Loving Your Body After Hating It

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Society tells us our bodies are wrong and imperfect constantly, and we believe them. Especially when we are young, we are plagued with body issues and lack love in our own bodies. I know that I have hated my body, especially as a teenager, and it’s taken me so long to start to love it. But, I want to share my process of finding self love and body positivity in myself. 

Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Let me admit how I was an AWFUL human being for awhile. Now, I’ve been a curvy lady for a while. I was a chubby child as well. And I would look at people (particularly as a teenager) and think, “Well at least I’m not that big” when they were curvier than I. Isn’t that terrible!!!

Now, I have overcome this habit, but body comparison is still so common when in a down swing of body positivity. The thing is, I shouldn’t care or worry about other people’s bodies, because I am not living in them. It’s not my body, and my body is great the way it is. That’s the mindset we need to have with our bodies after hating them.

Stop Comparing Parts of Your Body to Other Parts

I would do this a lot too. “Ugh I hate my stomach, but at least my eyes are pretty” and other crazy comparisons of my body to myself. It’s not a score, we don’t have to balance out to be worth viewing or feeling attractive. Your parts aren’t battling to be the best, they all make one amazing body.

Accept Flaws As Attractive

Society, the Internet, they don’t like flaws. But they are inherently wrong in making perfection a thing we can achieve with this product or that outfit or that diet. Surprise! You are already “perfect” because you are flawed. You are unique and an individual because of the things you find to be “wrong” with your body. Your flaws should be your favorite part, because the make you stand out be you.


Understand Your Hate, Then Negate It

Where does your hate come from? What is it that you really hate about your body? More often than not, these reasons are not actually about your body. It’s about what society told you, people in your life, the Internet, etc. It’s what you have been told to believe, but not the actual truth. After you analyze your hate, negate it. Make it false and wrong, and find your new truth to live by.

Loving your body after hating it is really difficult, and can take months and years to overcome. But loving yourself is so much more powerful and wonderful than hate will ever be.



6 Comments Add yours

  1. bethanyk says:

    This is great insight and perspective


  2. Jess I. says:

    Thank you so much for this. While my body hate isn’t as bad as others, I find myself comparing parts of my body with other parts without even realizing that. In addition, there are times that I look at my younger sister and say, “I didn’t have that body when I was her age,” and I’d feel bad about myself. It’s actually only recently I’ve found a bikini I’m comfortable in. And the worst part is, I’m rather skinny to begin with and people use that as an excuse to say, “What are you complaining about? You have the perfect body, you’re skinny!” I’m always trying to avoid using skinny as a synonym for perfect because they are not the same, in the same sense that skinny is not a synonym for healthy. BUT, I digress! Maybe I’ll do a post on this :).


  3. Brittany says:

    What a great way to look at it! Being a new mom with a new mom bod, this really helped me put things in perspective!


  4. Gina says:

    Great post! Comparison as they say, is the thief to joy!


  5. Leelee says:

    I love this. The world need more messages about how to love your body and far less comparison and putting down of others.


  6. shellyray says:

    Awesome post! I love the idea of understanding and negating your hate. Thanks for sharing! 🙂


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