When it’s a relationship break up, you can find millions of posts from millions of bloggers telling you what to do and how to feel better and get over it. But we don’t give friendship breakups the same attention, and that is a shame because friendship breakups are sometimes the hardest breakups of all. A friend breakup needs to be done in it’s own way
A little backstory: I wen through a pretty bad friend breakup, where I had to let go of a friendship because it was hurting me mentally and emotionally. And nowhere could I find anything that spoke on friendship, because we don’t really think about friendships consciously ending. Here is my best way to help you if it comes up in your life, because it totally could.
Understand Why You’re Breaking Up
With any decision really, you should know what and why you are doing it. With a friend breakup, it can be hard to really analyze how hurt you are or negative your situation is, but you need to do it to understand the situation. Losing someone you are close with is hard, and even harder when it’s an active choice, so take the time to understand your choice (or their’s if they are the one’s breaking it).
Be hurt. Feel it. Don’t deny your emotions, because that serves you no purpose. You just lost a friendship, and that is sad and heartbreaking. The sooner you feel the sooner you can move on.
Have A Different Friend Group To Go To
So, when I ended a friendship, pretty much all of my friends were attached to that person, and, for me, the only way I could really heal was to cut them off as well, at least for a while. It would have been a much easier experience if I had a group of friends that was entirely separate from that person. Having that other group gives you a place to go and can help normalize life after the fact and give support. Plus, it is always good to have a diverse amount of friend circles regardless of the being an issue or not.
Unpack But Don’t Live There
You’re probably thinking “what does this even mean?” Well, i tell you to unpack your feelings and gain an understanding, but you shouldn’t live in that state of thought and sadness. Unpack your feelings and thoughts, and then let them go and move on. Understand everything enough to give you closure. And don’t expect to go back in time and be friends again, it’s not going to happen. As James Bay sang, “We gotta let it go. Just let it be. Why don’t you be you and I’ll be me.”
How do you handle tough friend situations? Let me know with a comment.