I am pretty sure that when people see the phrase “Sex Positivity” they think it means having a lot of sex, which is not the case. Simply put, sex positivity is the belief that sex, as long as it is HEALTHY and CONSENSUAL, is a positive activity. And just like feminism, the amount you believe in about sex positivity can vary.
Are you still not sure if you’re sex positive? Consider these questions:
Do you believe it is important to understand your own sexuality? That knowing what you like and dislike, what turns you on and off, important to you?
Do you believe consent is important? That having both partners agree and are enthusiastic about having sex before doing it is important?
Do you believe having sex AND not having sex is healthy? That it is a choice of whether or not a person has sex and that it is not your right to judge them for that choice?
Do you understand that just because it doesn’t turn you on, it’s not wrong if it turns someone else on? That personal kinks and fetishes are personal and not your place to criticize?
Do you believe that slut-shaming of any kind is wrong? That there is a double standard of how we treat men and women when talking about sex, and that the amount of sex one person has is their choice, not yours?
Do you understand that your sex is not better than anyone elses sex? That sharing your sexual freedom excessively can be misconstrued as gloating and comparing your sex to another is inappropriate?
Do you believe that sexual education needs to be improved? That the current, abstinence education is not healthy, helpful, or safe for our youth?
I openly agree with all of these, so I am certainly a sex positive person.
If you said yes to the above questions, than congratulations you are sex positive! Again, the amount you agree with depends on you, and it is a learning process, so just keep an open mind.
Are you sex positive? What made you understand that?