For those who do not know, the quarter life crisis is when twenty somethings (usual after graduating college or turning 25) feel lost in life, whether it is in career, friendships, relationships, or all. It is the feeling that there is so much you could be doing, but you have no idea how or are too fearful of going for it so you fall into an emotional rut. And right now, I feel like I’m entering my quarter life crisis.
As I am entering my final semesters of college, the deep feeling of “I-have-no-idea-what-I-am-going-to-do” has settled deep into my soul. It is mainly the fact that I have big ideas of what I want to do, but have no funds or resources to accomplish any of them. The jump between college student to online content creator seems gigantic right now, and it honestly hurts my heart to think about post-college life.
Writing this post right now makes me anxious, and I have a feeling that many people feel the same way I do. The thing is, we aren’t given the tools to handle the post-school reality of life. For 16+ years I have been in school and it is the only thing I really know how to do. It’s a comfort zone, and soon I will be forced out of that zone and into the unknown.
The current feeling of I am not where I want to be is totally overwhelming and disheartening. I am stuck in a position of relative comfort, and I clearly know where I want to get to, but I feel like I am going to fall short, which is not motivational at all. My ambition and drive is not overcoming the quarter life crisis.
I do, however, have the advantage of somewhat isolating my feelings into something understandable, while others have a mix of issues. The engagement-baby crisis is an abundant, meaning that seeing people in your life having children and getting engaged triggers a crisis because you are not to that point in your life.
This is all a deeply societal issue to me, because a college degree seems like a one-way ticket to success, but the fact is that many of us twenty somethings struggle with actually being successful post grad. Society also tells us that (especially women) need to get engaged and have children before hitting 30, which is an absolutely terrifying concept to me. Societal expectations are causing us to have a quarter life crisis, and it’s really frustrating.
I have no clear idea of where I wanted this post to go, but let me know if you are feeling the same way I am so we can help each other.