You’ve heard of extroverts and introverts, but have you heard of an outgoing introvert?
If you aren’t exactly sure what an introvert is, introversion is where a person spends most time and enjoys thinking about one’s own thoughts and feelings. They recharge when alone, instead of with people, and would rather stay in on a Friday night than go out. Extroverts are the polar opposite; they love being around people and going out, and have a lot of interest in others. But what happens when you fall in between? That is where outgoing introverts come in!
Outgoing introverts have mostly introvert characteristics, but also posses some extrovert qualities as well. But how do you know which qualities make the complexity that is an outgoing introvert? Well, lucky for you, I have listed some of them below, particularly the one’s I relate to personal.
You Are Selectively Social
Introverts are commonly called anti-social, since they are not fans of large social situations. Outgoing introverts, however, are not completely against being social. We are perfectly capable at being social, they just have to warm up to the situation. We also hate small talk, because it goes nowhere. We prefer to carefully chose what social situations we put ourselves in to, and enjoy deep conversations over frivolous chatter.
Finding Someone You Really Like Is Like Winning the Lottery
Extreme extroverts exhaust us, and extreme introverts rarely interact with us, so finding someone we vibe with and can having long, engaging conversations with is like winning the lottery, it’s possible but not probable. It takes a lot of energy to find someone who can understand the complex behavior of outgoing introverts, and when we do find a person we genuinely like, it’s a miraculous moment.
You Hate Traditional Systems
How stuff is traditionally set up is made for extroverts, such as crowded bars, open office spaces, and anything with the word “public” in it’s name. The last place I want to be is anywhere super crowded and open, where anyone and everyone can hear what I’m saying. Outgoing introverts find comfort in places with more intimacy and the ability to have private, deep conversations in comfort. Think cozy coffee shops that aren’t Starbucks or small town diners that aren’t Denny’s.
People Will Confuse You With An Extrovert
Even though you mostly relate to introvert qualities, a little extrovert comes out every now and again. We’re confident in our skin and know our beliefs and opinions clearly enough to articulate to others. And when we get into a great conversations, we won’t stop talking. This, to an outsider, will look like an extrovert, because they don’t see all of the introversion you have in that moment. So if you’ve ever had to say “No, really, I’m an introvert” you’re probably an outgoing introvert.
Your Energy Level Depends On The Environment
If the environment is calm and relaxed, that’s what we are. If it’s exciting and energized, that’s what we are. We vibe off of the energy of the situation, and it can greatly effect our mood. We don’t necessarily prefer one over the other, because it really depends on how we feel in the moment.
You Probably Didn’t Know You Were An Outgoing Introvert
Most only know about introverts and extroverts, and nothing in between, including myself before seeing it a few days ago. We think we are one or the other, and shove ourselves into that box even though we have all these other qualities about us. Embrace all of you, not just the introvert or extrovert.
Are you an outgoing introvert? Or maybe a shy extrovert? Let me know in the comments!