When you are separated from a friend, it becomes very difficult to deal with. It puts a strain on the friendship that nothing else could accomplish as well. But, it is entirely possible to keep a friendship going from a far. I know because I am doing it.Here is a brief background on my long distance friendship: 5 state lines, 2 time zones, or 1,855.7 miles. No matter how you measure it, my best friend and I are far apart. We also have an age gap of 2 years. However, we’re still incredibly close, and here is how.
Give Each Other Space
This sounds like a crazy first step into maintaining a friendship, but trust me. When you see someone regularly, you don’t have to try to stay in their life. But once you put miles between you two, you feel like you have to do more to stay in their life, so you text them twenty times a day and comment on every Facebook status and like every Instagram picture. It’s better to let them live without you a little bit, because if they were always trying to contact you, you’d probably get annoyed too. Live your life and let them live theirs, meet new people and have new and interesting things to tell them later.
Keep in Touch
Now don’t send a hundred texts, but ask how life is going for them every once in awhile. Make phone calls or utilize Skype to see them as you talk. Keep up with them and show you still are interested. If you distance yourself too much, you will lose the desire to keep working on keeping the friendship. My most utilized form of quick communication is Snapchat, because it provides a quick glimpse at their life
Take Advantage of Face Time
When you get a chance to see your friend face to face, take advantage of that time to catch up, hang out and do your favorite things together. These times are few and far between now, so make it count. If you can manage visiting each other in your new locations, then do so. It’s a great way to see what’s going on with them in person, rather than on Instagram.
Maintaining friendships that are long distance takes work and a strong desire to stay in the other persons life, and its not a one way street. But, if you love this person like a sibling and really want it to last, then it won’t be as hard as you think.