How To Maintain A Long Distance Friendship

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When you are separated from a friend, it becomes very difficult to deal with. It puts a strain on the friendship that nothing else could accomplish as well. But, it is entirely possible to keep a friendship going from a far. I know because I am doing it.Here is a brief background on my long distance friendship: 5 state lines, 2 time zones, or 1,855.7 miles. No matter how you measure it, my best friend and I are far apart. We also have an age gap of 2 years. However, we’re still incredibly close, and here is how.

Give Each Other Space

This sounds like a crazy first step into maintaining a friendship, but trust me. When you see someone regularly, you don’t have to try to stay in their life. But once you put miles between you two, you feel like you have to do more to stay in their life, so you text them twenty times a day and comment on every Facebook status and like every Instagram picture. It’s better to let them live without you a little bit, because if they were always trying to contact you, you’d probably get annoyed too. Live your life and let them live theirs, meet new people and have new and interesting things to tell them later.

Keep in Touch

Now don’t send a hundred texts, but ask how life is going for them every once in awhile. Make phone calls or utilize Skype to see them as you talk. Keep up with them and show you still are interested. If you distance yourself too much, you will lose the desire to keep working on keeping the friendship. My most utilized form of quick communication is Snapchat, because it provides a quick glimpse at their life

Take Advantage of Face Time

When you get a chance to see your friend face to face, take advantage of that time to catch up, hang out and do your favorite things together. These times are few and far between now, so make it count. If you can manage visiting each other in your new locations, then do so. It’s a great way to see what’s going on with them in person, rather than on Instagram.

Maintaining friendships that are long distance takes work and a strong desire to stay in the other persons life, and its not a one way street. But, if you love this person like a sibling and really want it to last, then it won’t be as hard as you think.

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7 Comments Add yours

  1. As someone who moved away from home for university, I can totally relate to this post. These are some awesome and helpful tips for keeping in touch with your bestie, and also make people feel like they aren’t alone in the same position. Awesome ^_^

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  2. Shannon P says:

    Thank goodness for FaceTime and texting! They have definitely helped me keep in touch long distance!

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  3. Mommy Sanest says:

    My two best friends from college live a few states away, and really, we barely keep in touch between visits. But, every time we see each other, we just pick up where we left off. Those are the best kind of friendships.

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  4. Farrah says:

    I’ve been 3 time zones away from my family and all my closest friends for the past 4-ish years, and am grateful every day that technology makes staying in touch so much easier! ❤

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  5. Claire says:

    Great tips! Long distance friendships are hard!

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  6. Great sentiments! As we get older we realize that true, long-lasting friendships are rare and precious things. It’s important to make the effort to maintain our friendships – they add so much to life!

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  7. Horacio says:

    Wow, awesome blog layout! How long have you been blogging for?
    you make blogging look easy. The overall look of your site is wonderful, let alone the content!

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