One of the scariest things for people to do is to do anything alone. There is such a great stigma about being alone in our society. It carries and embarrassment with it, a shadow of judgement by bystanders and strangers. This fear of being alone can, however, lead to more disastrous situations, such as abusing relationships and desperate pairings. Everyone needs to learn to be alone, and here are the reasons why.
1. You will figure out what you do and don’t enjoying doing
I have found myself in many instances where I am doing what other people around me are doing, particularly with friends. And many of these activities are never anything I want to do or I’m apathetic towards. For example, horror movies are popular fare with my friends. I, on the other hand, could live the rest of my life never seeing another horror film. Gore as entertainment is not so entertaining to me. I also find myself in situations where I want to do something, but my counterparts object and refuse. This is a frustrating circle of being with other people.
When I spend time alone and do things alone, I find myself some of the joys of life. Reading a book, for example, is not a group activity. I greatly enjoy reading, but I only get to do it when I’m alone, which unfortunately isn’t often. I also enjoy watching movies alone, because I have the freedom to talk whenever I want and it is quiet when I want. You can’t guarantee that with other people around.
2. You can reconnect with old passion
It is a common problem that we all become too busy to do everything we want and need to do, so something has to fall to the wayside. In my own experience, when I first went off to college, I gave up dancing as much as I used to. Being a full time college student creates obstacles for continuing passions, as do many other things in life. This also goes back to the fact that you never really want to spend time by yourself so you sometimes have to reconcile with other people’s plans and desires over your own. What is great about doing things alone is that you can reconnect with old passions. I have chosen to get back into my dance passion by going to the performances of the local ballet company, and even though I could probably find one or two who would want to join me, I don’t want to share the experience. It’s my personal form of apology for leaving it behind for the past few years.
3. You gain independence and confidence
Doing anything by yourself is absolutely gut wrenching. For a really long time, I was terrified to speak to wait staff at restaurants (it sounds ridiculous, but I was a child). Speaking to strangers is scary. But I don’t like living in a bubble of fear, so I challenge myself to do the uncomfortable, especially doing things alone. In this process I went from awkward silences with the waitress at Denny’s to giving a speech in front of 4,000 people at my high school graduation. Doing activities alone can be very empowering, and I can tell that I have gained much more independence and confidence from my solo ventures than anything I’ve done in a group, with only a single exception. This is not an over night transformation however, so the more you go out and do things alone the easier it becomes and the higher you self-esteem will become.
4. You will relax and recharge
There is nothing more relaxing than getting away from the craziness of life and people with solitude. I, being a self-proclaimed introvert with a great deal of information to back that up, greatly enjoy alone time in order to relax. Whether it is scrolling the internet, listening to music, reading a book or watching a movie, doing it alone is quite relaxing and helps me recharge to go back out and interact with people. Other people and outside noise can distract you and cause stress with said distraction, so taking part of your day to just be by yourself and do whatever your want will always be helpful to your mental and emotional health.
There you have it: the 4 reasons why you should do things alone.